Remember that one time…

Remember that one time last year when all I wanted was a revolution. Well now it’s happening here in America! It is also a time to mourn, a time to educate each other and a time to band together. Enough is enough. Black people deserve better and it’s about fucking time those with white privilege or proximity to white privilege figure it the fuck out and make it happen. Time to flex your white privilege to make a radical difference and protect the lives of the black community. It’s time to end systemic racism and uproot this whole system.

Let’s be real, this should have happened a long time ago. Better late than never I guess. There’s no going back now and thank God for that. No one can undo what’s been done. No one can bring back all the lives that have been lost due to racism and brutal killer cops.

To the family, friends and loved ones who have lost someone dear to them at the hands of a racist cop, no words can ever right that wrong but for what it’s worth I am so sorry. I cannot possibly imagine how painful this has been for you. To everyone out there fighting, protesting, showing up, speaking up and taking up space, listen to me and listen good. You don’t stop fighting. Do not be afraid. Stay together, no one left behind. Be kind, compassionate and loving but take absolutely no shit. Keep each other safe. Viva la fucking revolution baby. #blacklivesmatter

P.S. To the racist murderers, aka the biggest gang of thugs in America, aka police officers….. I truly hope and pray that the people you have hurt get justice for what you have put them through. I hope and pray you find a way to make it right and repent for what you have done. God help you.

Scholarship Essay 3/3

Last, but not least, my third essay. Again this is part of my scholarship application that called for three short essays. Each with different writing prompts and a maximum of 350 words for each paper. I love writing so this was easy for me but it was challenging to have to be so concise. I think I did ok but I would love any feedback or constructive criticism. Thanks!

Essay 3: What have you done for your family or community that you care about the most and why? (350 word limit)

Last year in March, I was in the midst of a very nasty and long custody battle for my daughter. This was the aftermath of having narrowly escaped from an abusive relationship. It was the hardest part of my life to walk through alone but I did it. My daughter needed me to fight for her and stay strong, so giving up was never an option for me. Just when I thought that there is no way I could possibly handle anymore curve balls thrown at me, I found out I was pregnant with my second child. 

Having another child was not part of my original plan but I made it all work out for the best. I got a raise and a new position at the company I worked for that involved moving to the Portland area. This big change was terrifying for me but I knew it was the right thing to do. So I gathered all the courage I had, packed up my car and left. I drove, pregnant and alone, from South Dakota to Oregon in search of a better life for me and my family. Thank God, I found what I was looking for. 

    I moved into my new life as a single mother working full-time to put food on the table all throughout my pregnancy. I even took on a second job doing food delivery on nights and weekends to make ends meet. Slowly but surely things started to get better for us. I found some incredible friends who helped me and my family along the way. I kept hope alive for us because I knew that my hard work would pay off in the long run. 

Now I am trying to better the lives of my children by getting my education. Nothing in this life can compare to the love and devotion I have for my family. I am a single mother to my two amazing daughters; Florence two years old and Phoenix four months old. Family is absolutely the most important part of my life and I would do anything for them. 

Scholarship Essay 2/3

I need to say a big thank you to my better half, Elias, for staying up with me all night and giving me feedback on my writing. His input and encouragement gave me heaps of confidence in my work. I enjoyed writing this short essay the most out of the three I was tasked to write. It’s talking about the two things that mean the most to me; sobriety and family. Enjoy!

Essay 2: Describe a significant challenge or change that has happened in your life in the last ten years. How did you respond and what did you learn about yourself? (Limit to 350 words.)

In the past ten years I have overcome so much to be the woman I am today. I had been fighting a losing battle with alcoholism and addiction for the majority of my life. My father passed away due to a fatal combination of alcohol and sedatives that his frail out heart could not handle. I then flew off the handle. I was self medicating my depression, anxiety and grief. I was trying to put out the fire of my broken past with gasoline. There was no light at the end of my tunnel and I swiftly hit rock bottom. 

    Luckily, I did not meet my untimely demise when I reached my rock bottom. Instead, I admitted I had a problem which I could not solve on my own. This was just the tip of the iceberg of my long road of recovery. On November 12th, 2013 I got sober and started going to twelve step recovery meetings on a regular basis. Wonderful parts of life that I had never thought were possible for me slowly started happening. 

I discovered spirituality, got a job and started contributing to society. Recovery taught me that my main problem was me. The solution was always to be of service to others and get out of my own head. I was finally able to deal with the traumas of my past in a healthy way. By removing what was no longer working for me I made space in my life for the stuff that really matters, like gratitude, friendships and family. 

    My life kept getting better and better. Then one day I found out I was going to be a mother. It was the happiest moment of my life. Looking back to when I was active in my addictions, I never thought I could get sober let alone be someone’s mother. But there I was, receiving the gifts of sobriety in the form of motherhood. My sobriety taught me how to be a loving mother to my children. I now have over six years sober and I am not giving up no matter what. 

Scholarship Essay 1/3

Each of the three essays had different response prompts or topics. This first was not my favorite but it’s words I put together on paper. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks!

1: Explain your career goals and your educational plan to meet these goals. What inspired you to choose this field of study and career? (Limit to 350 words.)

As a mother, naturally, what brings me the most joy in life is helping others. I wanted my career path to not only spark my interests but set fire to my compassion and empathy for mothers and children in need. I want to create a non-profit organization that delivers groceries, diapers and other resources to the homes of new mothers and babies. Adjusting to motherhood is difficult, lonely and scary for many women. Having this kind of support system from other women can be life changing for the whole family which causes a ripple effect that positively impacts local communities too. 

I know this because it happened to me. I was a new mother who needed help and luckily there were organizations that gave me support when my children and I needed it most. What has also inspired my career path is my daughters. I want to be a good role model for them so they can grow up to be kind and compassionate towards others as well. And lastly, I know I cannot tell my children to make education their main priority if I myself have not made it a priority for me. That’s why I started college. 

I am just finishing up my first term of full-time classes. I am learning so much already and I am proud of myself for the good grades I have worked hard for. I am planning on obtaining an associates degree in accounting and eventually transferring to a nearby university. I am also working on achieving a focus award in women’s studies. After meeting with an academic advisor, we created a course plan to help navigate which classes I should register for. This way, I am staying on track and only taking the classes that give me credit towards my degree and focus award. My education is of paramount importance to my career goals as mentioned above. My daughters give me the daily motivation I need to keep going which I am so grateful for. 

Scholarship application submitted

Holy crap you guys oh, it’s already March! I cannot believe that it’s already March of 2020. This year is seriously already flying by. I can’t believe it. Where does the time go? I’m almost done with my first term of college? Is this real life? I’m so freaking proud of myself.

As many of you know I just started college. I am happy to report that I worked really hard for the good grades that I have now and I am finishing up my first term at Portland community college. I’ve been doing online classes working towards getting an associate’s degree in accounting and a focus award in women’s studies. Today I submitted my scholarship application for school. I had to write three short essays for this application and I’m really proud of my work. the scholarship application is going to be submitted to over 250 different scholarships that I am eligible for. I am hoping and praying that I get something back but I won’t hear about the results until June. I am a firm believer in the power of a collective consciousness or a collective thought powering the spirit of the universe 2 work in amazing ways. So if you could just say a silent prayer or a good thought or a positive vibes sent my way for this application to go good I would really appreciate it. Thank you!

Peace Out 2019

  • I faced my abuser. It was scary and took all my strength and courage to continue moving forward but I finally stood up for myself. No going back, no denial and no more being someone else’s private emotional punching bag.
  • I concluded a very nasty custody battle. I didn’t make enough money to afford any legal representation when the trial finally happened. I was just barely over the federal gross monthly income limit to qualify for legal aid. By the time the trial came along I had to represent myself and it was terrifying. But if I can do that, I can fucking do anything!
  • Took a promotion into a new department, with better pay and closer to my baby Florence.
  • I bought my first car all on my own. It’s this cute little blue Rav4 that was the same year, make and model that my grandma used to drive when I was younger. It had a lot of miles on it but was a great car.
  • I drove that sweet little car of mine half way across the country pregnant, all by myself and rode a giant jackolobe on the way. *See photo
  • After accepting my new job, I moved to Portland.
  • I worked my ass off and got my own apartment. Very modest, cozy little home. It’s nothing fancy but it’s home.
  • I got pregnant, found out I’m having another baby girl. It took a lot of courage because I was on my own for the most part but it was AWESOME because I was on my own for the most part. Walking through that alone gave me so much confidence in myself. Again, if I can do this, I can do anything.
  • Rocked the shit out of that pregnancy by myself for the most part. I worked throughout my entire pregnancy, did not miss one doctor’s appointments and walked through every stressful moment. My friends and chosen family really had my back and I am blessed to have found a solid support system here in Portland. I had a few unforseen health complications during my pregnancy that made the last trimester way harder but I walked through it. And once again, if I can do this, I can do ANYTHING!
  • Started dating the love of my life, Elias. It’s a long distance relationship, (for now) he’s in Seattle and I am in Portland but we make it work. It’s not too far of a drive but it’s far enough to where we have to work around schedules and plan out our visits. He is my best friend and I am so lucky to have such an amazing partner who treats me like an equal. He is my twin flame, we come from the same soul and I adore him inside and out. Never have I ever had a partner in my life that has been this good to me. He is just simply wonderful and it doesn’t hurt that he’s super hot too.
  • I gave birth to a beautiful healthy and happy baby girl! I had a successful VBAC with very minimal interventions. With the help of three loving birthing support peeps, Barb, Jenna and my gorgeous boyfriend Elias. It was exactly the birthing experience I had hoped for. Giving birth to Phoenix was by far my greatest accomplishment of 2019. She is just wonderful and brings so much joy and love into my life. She’s a very very happy baby. Her smile makes me melt. And you know what I learned from this? If I can give birth to such an amazing little human, I can do ANYTHING!
  • I got to make a lot of amazing memories with my kids. They are best of friends and love to play together. Florence is such a great big sister and always wants to help caring for her little sister Phoenix.

So what have we learned? You never really know how strong you are until you have to use your strength to get through something. Struggles build character and gives hope to the people watching you walk through it. Never give up, keep going!

Breastfeeding QAs

Hey mamas! It’s Christmas Eve, I’ve got my almost two month old baby asleep on my chest, my boyfriend is asleep too and I’m watching Kurt Russell be the sexiest Santa ever on Netflix. Seriously, whoever decided to cast Jack friggin Burten as Santa is a flipping genius! Anywho, no better time than now to dust off the Chromebook and answer some breastfeeding questions I recently received on my Instagram from inquiring mamas like you and me. Hope you enjoy!

Awesome, you’re almost done with your pregnacy, congrats! I know from my own experience nursing during pregnancy is no easy task, so bravo to you. To answer your questions, your milk will change depending on both of your babies’ needs. Yes, ideally your body should still produce colostrum when you give birth to your second baby. That’s all because the hormones in your body will change once the baby and placenta are both out of your body. You may even start producing colostrum a week or two leading up to your birthing experience which is what happened to me. Your new baby will not be hurt in any way by tandem nursing. Quite the opposite in fact, by continuing to nurse your oldest baby thorughout your pregnancy, continuously emptying out your breasts, ensures a healthy and hefty milk supply should come in plenty for both babes. Nurse on mama!

Hey yeah mama! You nurse for as long as you and your baby needs or wants to and don’t let anyone tell you different. Seriously, fuck whatever anyone else says, I’m full-term nursing both my kids. Breastfeeding is a rewarding part of motherhood that can be tough as hell sometimes. Ok most of the times but whatever, it is more than worth it knowing that I am giving my babies exactly what they want and need to lear and grow strong. The struggle can be very real so good on you for toughing it out by staying persistent and patient. Keep at it mama! Yous a bad ass bitch!

Gassy baby fart monsters are no fun at all! Try to keep in mind that there is a ton of growth and change happening to your little gorgeous baby’s insides between 5-10 weeks old. You can flip your diet upside down a million times over but if you’ve tried that already here’s what I have done that helps my babes. Start by breastfeeding your baby by putting them in a more up right or vertical position. Even just adding a little lean to your position will help out tons! And after feeding keeping baby upright for about 10-20 minutes. That way, their body will use gravity to help the milk settle in their tummies and less likely to get air bubbles that cause gas and burps. It also prevents the baby from colic and spitting up a bunch. Next, invest in gas drops! I use the Gas Relief Drops from Little Remedies for my babes. It’s homeopathic, safe to use on newborns and works very fast. Lastly, you can try the old fashioned manual way by bicycle peddling the baby’s legs out or giving a gentle belly massage to work it all out helps too. Last but not least, tummy time! Anything that puts gentle pressure or movement to the baby’s abdomend will help your babe with getting out gas and poops. Wishing you and yours merry poops and happy new year!

Oh girl. Ok henny, we gunna need to burn a lot of fucking sage for this shit now. This sucks for all parties invovled, period. The thought of a baby not being with their mommy makes my heart ache with sympathy because I know all too well how that feels. I completely understand where you are coming from, trust. Did you follow my socials last year??? Talk about the worst year of my LIFE! But i, case you missed it, I’ll spare you the details and give you the short and way less tramatic version of what happened. Last year, during a very nasty, drawn out custody battle with my first daughter’s dad, my daughter and I were separated a lot. It was absolutely awful and I would not wish a custody battle on my worst enemy. But to top it all off, her and I were forced to be apart from each other while we were still nursing. It felt like I had been unjustly stripped of my motherhood. I was crushed. When we did finally see each other again all my poor little baby wanted to do was nurse and I wanted to keep nursing her too. So I had to keep up my milk supply through the roughest, most stressful, heartbreaking time of my life. And I did! It wasn’t easy but I thankfully did not dry up. With a lot of hard work and daily dedication my milk kept coming in. Pumping, hot showers, manual epxression and just thinking of my baby helped keep my milk flowing.

Here’s my advice to you…. If you and/or your baby wants ween and this is a good time to do it, then ween. If you both want to keep nursing, do it. You are mother and no matter what, no one can ever take that away from you. You always know what is best for your child and so follow your intuition. Get quiet and pray or meditate about it to choose what is right for you and your baby. Your baby might start weening on their own, maybe not. Pay attention to your babe’s body language and that will tell you if he/she is ready to ween or not. If you choose to continue nursing here’s what you can anticipate. You’ll need to pump a lot leading up to the visit and on the days she is not with you. That task is likely to be very emotional experience for both you and baby. It is going to be hard the first few times. Hell, it might be hard for a while, but things will inevitably change. Don’t worry they always do. I would pump ahead of time and try to give the other parent enough milk supply to last them for the duration of their visit. That will likely lessen any sort of difficulty falling asleep the baby may have while being in the care of the other parent. Make sure your diet is rich with foods that encourage your healthy milk supply like oatmeal or lacation cookies. You could also start drinking the Mother’s Milk tea to help as well. Lastly, BE KIND TO YOURSELF during this adjustment period by giving yourself time and space to process, feel your feelings, self care to heal and move forward. This is the most important part here: Try to give yourself the same love, advice, forgiveness, compassion and patience as you would give to your child.

*Pro Tip; Ask yourself this: “If you baby was all grown and going through this same issue, what advice would you give to her?”

My New(ish) Youtube Channel

I’ve started to upload videos to my Youtube channel. In this first addition to my channel, baby Phoenix and I go over nursing positions for baby and mommy. Remember, always support your baby’s neck while holding, nursing, bonding AND if you have any serious medical concerns with breastfeeding please see your doctor, doula, midwife or lactation consultant.

Here’s my latest Youtube video

Asking for a friend: Let it go

I get a lot of messages on instagram asking for advice about an array of topics such as motherhood, breastfeeding, pregnancy, skating, meditation, sobriety and recovery. Why would anyone want or need sage advice from this old witch? It’s not like I’ve had it easy in life at all but I am a survivor. No matter what has happened to me I have managed to keep on keeping on despite the many obstacles in my path. I have overcome adversity and grown stronger, became better for it. I have danced with the fucking devil himself, come to know my shadow self and grown comfortable with being uncomfortable. I am like a fucking roach, no matter how many times I get stepped on, I’ll still be here. If a nucular bomb dropped guess what biiiiiiitch, my roach ass would still fucking be here because there is nothing that can stop me. That being said, I’ve lived through the worst of the worst and can tell you right off the bat that whatever it is, you’re going to be ok and you’re going to get through it. Which is why I am starting a new segment to go along with my blog that will answer your questions safely and anonymously. Our first question comes from Asking For A Friend which has inspired me to name this segment. Ok, I’m ready. Ask me your fucking questions…

“Hey Glo, I have watched you deal with a lot of stressful shit in the last year or so. I’m in a relationship I don’t want to be in anymore. Do you have any advice on letting go of toxic people?”

Asking for a friend…

The older I get the more I understand the fact that nothing and no one is permanent in this life. I am a firm believer that your life is like the airport; people arrive and depart throughout your life with a purpose and timing is everything. They might arrive just in time to get you through a particularly tough time when you’re feeling lost and they may depart promptly to show you just how strong you really are now. Either way, don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself because it is all for a lesson to be learned which ultimately benefits you even if it hurts a little in the process.

What I will not tolerate (and you shouldn’t either) is when someone who feels entitlement over your life enough to demand that you should be living a certain way and then gets pissed when you don’t agree with them. Don’t get me wrong, I am good at following rules, obeying laws and taking direction. Those are understandable, I get that. However, I absolutely hate being told what to do from someone who (a. doesn’t know wtf they are talking about and (b. is just shelling out unsolicited advice like their some all knowing Jesus Christ superstar and then gets mad at you when you don’t swallow whole their force fed advice. Get out of my face with that nonsense! No ma’am Pam! A good friend listens without judgement, gives support without expectations and doesn’t have some weird hidden agenda sprinkled with malicious motives. It might not be clear to see someone’s real intentions or motives until it’s too late but you’ll need to learn to let go with grace and ease. You can cry over it, be mad about what they said or did until you’re blue in the face but if someone important to you is bailing on you they are probably doing you a favor in the long run. If someone is mistreating you and they get defensive when you set boundaries or bolt; bye! You should be thanking them for finally having the courage to take off their masks and show you their true colors. Underneath that mask you will usually find that they were never really who they said they were in the beginning. Hence why they came in hot wearing the fucking mask in the first place. This is where we get into all the uncomfortable crunchy bits that no one likes to sit in for too long. Understandably so, who the fuck likes to be uncomfortable or sit and think about what your part is in all of this? No one, but it is a necessity for spiritual and emotional growth. Time to get in acceptance mode! And when you’re at this point nothing about that person will surprise you. Coming to grips that you never really knew that person to begin with can be a sobering thought. You might want to hold on tightly to the mask that person originally presented to you or holding onto what you believe that person should be or should have been or could be. Shoulda, woulda, coulda; fuck that! Do yourself a favor, don’t exhaust yourself expelling all your energy trying to swim up stream against a heavy current to get to someone who does not give a fuck about you or your life. The river of life is trying to carry you to your destiny so just let them go so you can relax and just go with the flow.

Moral of the story is, if someone doesn’t wanna fuck with you or is causing you termoil by keeping them in your life then let them go. Completely! No calls, no texts, no emails, stop following them, block their existence from your life. And don’t go back and unblock them, stick to your guns. And do so with ease and grace. Thank them for the purpose they served by teaching you the lessons you needed to learn about yourself and let it go! The tighter you hold on, the more you try to prove your points, the more it will hurt you. Listen to that annoying ass Frozen song and LET IT GO! If you are having trouble with the live and let live method, my best friend gave me this advice. Write 10 pages about the person, place or thing that is bothering you. Go ahead and just get it allllllllll out on paper. Then throw it away, light it on fire, whatever. Release it! Holding on gives it power over you and doesn’t allow you to be your highest self because that dims your shine.

For reals IRL

Lastly remember this, anyone can love you when the sun is shining. In the storms is where you learn who truly cares for you. Hope this helps you get through what you’re going through. Never give up!




P.S. If you have questions you would like to be answered anonymously send me a DM or email with the subject line Asking For a Friend and I will feature your questions in my blog! Thanks!

The Intentions

I think it’s important to lay out intentions right off the bat with any relationship. And oh honey this is gunna be a relationship because I’m planning on baring my fucking soul up in herrrrrr. But intentions are like opinions and opinions are like assholes; everyone’s got ’em right? Ready or not honey, cuz here comes mine!

The biggest intentions for me here is to create this sacred safe space for myself and others to open up and let in positivity. When I feel safe it presents an opportunity for me to allow my walls to come down and it feels good to get vulnerable. I remember a time in my life when I used to think that showing any vulnerability was a weakness but now I realize it is my greatest assest. It takes heaps of courage, bravery and strength to be vulnerable especially in the world we live in today. It is the only way we as humans can let the love in, connect with one another and heal. By showing my volnerabilities I open up my heart, I open my mind and I open my spirit to the divine love of the universe. Ultimately I want to be a good example of a strong, nurturing, loving female role model for my daughters to look up to. I want my girls to know that it’s ok to not be ok all the time. It’s ok to be scared when you walk through some gnarly stuff. It is ok to stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries. It is ok to be alone, practice self care and recharge. It is ok to love yourself the way you are, flaws and all! Celebrate your sexuality, your identity, your soul! I want to show my girls how to live joyfully and support others with kindness and love.

So this is our space to be mad mindful mamas! Yes, OURS, we can share. There’s enough room for everyone. I feel like 3 is a very auspicious number and comes up a lot in different cycles of life. Past, present, future. Maiden, mother, crone. Birth, death, rebirth. The list goes on and now; mad, mindful, mama! I feel like every woman embodies these three revolving aspects throughout her life. Let me explain….


The struggles and oppression of womanhood [deep sigh] …. let’s be real, there are plenty of things to be mad about. There’s the sometimes subtle, but usually blatant, unsolicited masagonistic interactions of everyday life. The unrealistic beauty standards that comericals, mainstream media and social media force onto us and encourages body shaming. Then states in the US are trying to get bans on abortions and turn us all into real life fucking hand maidens! These motherfuckers are stripping away women’s rights. The rights that many women before us fought way too fucking hard for just to give them over to a bunch of old white dudes. No ma’am! Not on my watch and not without a fight! You’re not crazy, this is real and actually happening and knowing that you are not going through this alone can be so reassuring and comforting. So now we can all agree, there is plenty to be mad about as a woman. And for most of our lives as women I am sure we have all just grinned and bared it. Not anymore, never again. Nope! Repeat after me……

“Being passionate, strong and having an opinion while being female doesn’t make you a bitch or emotional or crazy. You are not a damsel in distress, you don’t need to be saved by anyone. You can slay your own dragons, no knight in shining armor needed here sis.  You do not need to dull your shine, turn down your extra or pretend to be less than just to make other people comfortable. Just because society has conditioned us all to think in this patriarchal manner, you should not be ashamed of your body, your gender, your sexual identity. I will love, support and encourage other women every single day I am alive. I will love and accept and appreciate 100% of my feminine energy and if it makes you uncomfortable….hah, bye!”


It is very important to me to live by spiritual (not religious) principles which basically means to try my best not to be an asshole one day at a time. The way I do that is by living in gratitude, getting grounded and staying humble. Self-care is a daily process and can be made into a magick ritual. If you feel good about yourself before you walk out the door in the morning you are setting yourself up for a good fucking day. And when you feel good you end up treating others better as well so everyone wins. It does not always feel good to be mindful about my needs with mental health, recovery, writing, eating healthy, self-expression, gratitude lists, yoga and meditation. But 5 minutes into any of these actions I instantly feel better and realize why these things work for me. I believe it is always good for you to smash the ego in order to feel the oneness of the universe’s vibrations by staying present and connecting to others and nature. Mindfulness means doing whatever you are doing with intention and purpose. Using all your senses to be in the moment. How often do you feel yourself just mindlessly going through your day on auto pilot? Or feeling numb to life? Fuck that, I want to be awakened, evolved, I want enlightenment! It all starts with internal mindfulness.

“Letting go of all the past and future mental chatter and just being present. This the most important thing you could possibly do for yourself and those you love.”

Life is too fucking short and it’s not like anyone is going to make it out of this life alive. Think about it, we literally only have this moment RIGHT NOW! The past is gone and the future is not promised so you might as well stay where your feet are and enjoy it!


Once you cross the threshold from maiden into motherhood there is no going back. The moment you give birth to your first child, you are also giving birth to the new mother within you. As you watch your baby take their first sips of air you begin to see the world through a very different pair of glasses. It is a magical experience like none other that completely transforms your mind, body and soul. It’s important to support and encourage other moms going through the growing pains of becoming a new mommy. Giving guidance and help (when asked for it) to other mothers is also part of this rite of passage. Seeing other mothers succeed gives much needed hope and encouragement on the dark days. Needless to say, being a mom is not always easy. It is hands down a very tough job but is easily the most rewarding and beautiful part of life. To be able to nurture, care, nurse, teach and most importantly love your child is the greatest gift on earth. And that being said, your skills and abilities as a mother are not determined by who is standing besides you. With or without a partner, you CAN make it work. It might be tough but trust me when I say there are plenty of other single mothers out there who have made it work before you and there will be many more after you as well. Get your tribe of other mamas, lean on your family (be it blood relation or in spirit) and most importantly if and when you need it, ask for help. You will forever be wearing the crown of motherhood and no one can ever take that away from you, ever. Once you become a mother you will always be a mother, no matter what. Lastly please hear this little bit of advice that has gotten me through the worst days of my life…..

“Learn to truly love yourself the way you love your own child. Read that last sentence again. If you’re a mother or not, the sooner you can take that last bit of advice the easier your life will become.  In the words of Ru Paul, “If you can’t love yourself how in the hell you gunna love somebody else? Can I get an amen?”

Now you know where my mind is at with all of this and the direction I am going in. I hope you’ll stick around because I have high hopes for our female future. Maybe this will just be a small oasis for a couple girls like me and that’s it, which is cool. But maybe I’m not alone. Maybe WE are not alone and there are more women; hundreds, thousands, millions of women  out there who are feeling the call to join together, resist, revolt and rise up against oppression to smash the patriarchy! The revolution is coming, I can feel it in my soul. I dream about it every night. Thank you all for joining me through this journey. Let’s keep in touch and stay connected! xoxo